Despite its obvious tribulations, human motherhood is not without its perks: Half-burned toast and a cup of milky tea-in-bed on Mother’s Day; elaborate bunches of flowers snidely pilfered from the gardens of elderly neighbours for Easter, a plethora of pasta necklaces for birthdays and Christmas.

And as the children get older, the bounty only gets better.  My mother has four children and over the past 30-odd years has developed a sophisticated strategy of guilt inducement designed to send us all running for Space NK at the tiniest hint of festivities: “Don’t worry about getting me anything for Christmas, dear. All I want is a nice cup of tea and five minutes to rest my multiple-pregnancy-induced varicose veins and the calluses I’ve acquired in 30 years of washing, cooking, cleaning and looking after you and your brothers. But if you must get me something, some bubble bath would be nice.” And when a mother says “bubble bath” you know she means “an expensive selection of ewe’s milk, whale sperm and myrrh bath products developed from some poncey French dude and available on the shelves of Space NK and Space NK only.” and not “a bottle of that cheap stuff from Boots”.

Us cat mothers, however, have to make do with offerings that usually consist of the lifeless bodies of small mammals or birds, or worse, bits torn off of the lifeless bodies of small mammals or birds. In Buenos Aires, the cat-mother’s-day gift situation is even worse:  As the city is a fairly built-up area with little bird life that a cat could feasibly assassinate, my little angels have taken to capturing large, flying cockroaches and then depositing them at my feet (or worse) with a flourish and that “can I have some tuna now?” look.

Pitolin was a skilled, cockroach huntsman, particularly fond of capturing a large one, alive, and then bringing it to me in his mouth in order to allow me the pleasure of finishing off the job. One particularly humid summer, I awoke to a snuffling sound in my armpit. As I lifted up my arm to see why on earth he was nose-deep in the pit, out scurried a humungous roach who had obviously been seeking refuge from the cat in the crevasses of my body!

But what else can a cat mother do, but bash the gift over the head with a shoe, thank the cat profusely and keep reminding oneself that it’s the thought that counts!

For exceedingly furry beasts, living in a sub-tropical climate such as Buenos Aires is no mean feat, especially in the summer months.

With the thermometer currently edging its way up the 30s, the cats are obviously finding it increasingly difficult to keep cool.

Isis (the more intelligent one) has discovered a phenomenon called “the shade” and usually retreats to the house’s cooler nooks and crannies for a snooze at around midday. Edward, however, (not so bright) has taken to lying flat on the ground and spreading out his limbs as much as is felinely possible so as to absorb any available breeze that may or may not be blowing about. This occasionally gives him the appearance of having died a very dramatic death (as a completely paranoid mother, I often nudge him awake from his slumber just to check). It also leaves me wondering how on earth he survived for so long in the wild with a “drop and spread out” technique that must’ve left him completely vulnerable to predators.

Both of the cats have also taken to shedding their body weight on an almost daily basis. I am sure that I can collect up enough hair for a wig (or at least a couple of merkins) in just one mornings sweep. The vet reassured me that shedding during the summer months is a sign of a very healthy and well-fed cat. This did leave me pondering whether or not to take them off premium kibble for a while and reduce the quality of their coats on cheap-o “gati-miau” but I’ve decided just to get on and vacuum the stuff up! She did suggest shearing them but I don’t want them looking like they live in a concentration camp…or have lice! What would people think!

If there is one thing that a cat parent surely has to deal with far more than a human parent, it is the issue of infestations.

The other day, while examining Edward’s faecal offerings (from a safe distance) in the litter box, I noticed what looked like a see-through rubber band poking out of the side of one of his turds. I decided to give it a tug (wearing a plastic bag over my hand…I’m not completely insane) and finally separated a 10cm long, spaghetti-like worm from the rest of the mess. I immediately googled the creature (yes, yes, I removed the bag before touching my keyboard) and confirmed that it was indeed a sizable, adult round-worm (deceased).

Now, 10cm long is about as long as one of Edward’s back feet…bloody long. If anything of similar proportions ever emerged from the back end of a human child, an ambulance would undoubtedly be called and a science-fiction movie would undoubtedly be based on the incident.

As it was, far inferior treatment was given to my poor old mog who simply received a worming tablet from the vet before being sent on his merry way back home where a further 5/6 worms were subsequently shat out as soon as the tablet took effect (it was like the anal version of Tremors).

How on earth he has been able to maintain his corporal mass (with an emphasis on the mass) with a tummy-full of ravenous parasites is beyond me.  He’s even managed to cultivate a goose-neck since we adopted him just six months ago.  It can’t be normal.

His father and I have since purchased an industrial size box of surgical gloves in order to prevent further infestation from passing from mog to human. Apparently, round-worm in a human can travel up to the lungs, heart and even eye! At first, I decided that I would wear the gloves at all times when in contact with kitties but when Edward started giving me that forlorn, boy in the bubble-type look, I soon reverted back to traditional cuddling…hopefully not at my peril!

Edward’s rescue story was recently featured on the Care2.com website, after being selected by the Head of the Great Animal Rescue Chase organisation.

Despite being a little on the larger side, Edward’s photos still came out wonderfully. He is such a handsome fellow!

To read the full Edward rescue story, click here

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Now that we’ve reached our thirties, many of my friends have recently begun to spawn human children.  On the one hand, it is nothing short of fantastic to watch them out and about with their mini me’s and at some point prior to menopause, I intend to join them (at least once) in their race to overpopulate. But as their interest in bugaboo’s and Tommee Tippee’s reaches new heights, their abilities to share in the delights of my furry family has, quite surprisingly, begun to decline.

It is quite strange to watch your friends turn into mothers. To cut their hair shorter, stop bothering with contact lenses and start purchasing trousers with elasticised waistbands. Trying to organise a coffee or (God forbid) dinner out with them that doesn’t involve a plethora of juice boxes and bananas or end in at least three items of your clothing being irreparably tarred in white sick or unidentified stickiness is no mean feat.  A simple outing can involve weeks of military calculations until a suitable plan can be drawn up usually involving some ignorant, overpaid and semi-responsible sod getting lumbered with the task of child death prevention for four hours. By this time, my now understandably desperate friend, wants nothing more than to knock down half a bottle of pinot grigiot (a taste for which I assume one only acquires post-partum) and wax lyrical over the delights of her offspring.

I do not wish to play down the vital importance of traditional, human motherhood and completely understand the amount of time and energy that my peers now have to spend preventing their chubby cherubs from meeting a premature and grizzly death elbow-deep in a plug socket. I get the vital importance of their little angels not being the only Jack and Mia’s in the playground unable to converse in at least three European languages. But if I am now to be subjected to hours upon end of Steiner vs Montessori or the vast benefits of baby sign language, I do wish that people were just a little more sympathetic as to the responsibilities of being a feline parent.

Now while I do appreciate that as a cat mother I am free as a bird to leave my charges unattended and indulge in any number of evenings of alcoholism and recreational drug use without either of them being removed from my care, it is still a complete misconception that cat parenting isn’t without its pitfalls.